PLOPWALT-PDOPWANLT stands for People like other people who are like themselves. People dislike other people who are not like themselves. Something like "like attracts like" concept. In Malay, we have this pepatah, "Masuk kandang kambing mengembek, masuk kandang harimau mengaum". An interesting concept I read from AhYap's blog
If u wanna build rapport with anyone or to win a girl/guy's heart, u can utilize this concept.
Sounds silly but basically you observe and mimic what they do. If they do not make eye contact, neither should you. If they like to say the word "f**k" or "ma cibai", u follow suit. If their culture is to hug and kiss, just follow suit even though our Asian culture is generally more reserved.
It really depends on how much u wanna win that person's heart and how much u wanna mimic or follow.
If you practise PLOPWALT-PDOPWANLT, the other person would feel that u have the same 'wavelenght' as their, u would instantly click with him/her as if u two have known each others for decades.
As for me, when my peers like to curse, I curse aloud with them. With my Malay friends, I use words like "tak aci la, emo la, skema la, korang la". With surgeons I use "range of movement, diabetic foot ulcer Grade 2A etc". Some friends who like to share dirty jokes, I have plenty to share with them too. =p
Some people might disagree and they want to be who they are. They might label it as hypocrite. I would rather call it 'adaptive'. I believe those who are inflexible and unwilling to accept different people's thoughts and behaviour will have to endure tremendous difficulties in life. Those who are observant, non-judgemental and adaptive will end up happier and more successful.
so we are what attraction? =P
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